I've grown up knowing that; having it nailed into my entire being. You do not have sex before you are married.
Sex is an act of worship between a man and his wife, celebrating the one-ness God gave them.
I knew this struggle would come. The moment I made my decision to start having sex with the bf, I knew there would be a point where I would have to figure out how this is going to mesh with my relationship with the Big Guy.
I've chosen to partake in something He has called sin. I'm willingly doing it. So how do I span that gap between God and myself, and keep a thriving relationship?
I've known Christians far stronger than me who have had sex, continue to do so, and yet are right on track with God. So how do I get to that point?
I know God's not going to turn away from me for this one choice. But now I have to wonder, am I separating myself from Him out of the guilt of knowing I'm doing something wrong? If that is the case, how do I move past that?
There are those I've known who have suggested that by blatantly choosing to do the opposite of what God asked, I am choosing to abandon my faith and committment to God. Yet Daniel, one of God's favourites did the same, and he still managed to keep God's favour.
I suppose like everything else in life it's a learning curve. But right now, the guilt is eating me up inside; not so much that I've given up my virginity, but that I'm lacking the guilt that should accompany.
I feel your pain on this.
ReplyDeleteIt is something I struggled with a while ago. I am still a virgin now, but I am not sure I am going to stay one before I get married. I think it's a really noble goal and desire to do that for God and something I always thought I would be fine doing. But the fact is that if I don't get married ever, I can't imagine that I'd never have sex. But then again, God should be the most important relationship we have. He is the ONE who is always there for us, when others leave and walk out. Good luck, pray about it.
~Jill
www.lifeaftercollege3.blogspot.com
I don't think you can have a "thriving relationship" with God when you have unconfessed sin between you and Him. Daniel (maybe you mean David?) kept his relationship with God, because when he did make mistakes, he confessed them and turned his life around. He didn't continue sinning and pretend like everything was a-okay.
ReplyDeleteHaving said that, I just want to say that even if you aren't right with God, He still loves you and cares about you. He made rules for us because they're meant to protect us and help us. [I'm sure you already know that, but I wanted to say something in case someone reads this who isn't a Christian and doesn't realize God's love is unconditional.]
I hope you don't take offense to what I'm about to say, it's merely my opinion on the matter, and I respect other people's religious choices.
ReplyDeleteI was raised Catholic, and went to a Catholic elementary school.
My mom was not raised with religion, and my dad's side were the Catholics. My grandmother goes to church every Sunday, and is quite religious.
Catholics don't even believe in birth control, let alone pre-marital sex.
Having gone to a public high school, and four years of university, with several, religion course (covering all religions), I have come to realize several things about religion...
the main thing I realized is that it doesn't evolve. Despite EVERYTHING in the world evolving, religion stays still.
Do you really think that God will punish you for premarital sex? Why does sex feel good, if it is so bad? I think it's a natural thing for the human body, and something we are supposed to do. Sex between two people is a beautiful thing. It's the greatest connection two people can make. Why would God deny that?
If you love someone and care about them, it's a form of affection.
I think too many people are afraid of religion, and the RULES made by old dead white guys... people evolve, and so should religion.
@Jill - I know, and I hate how it's a struggle to make God our most important relationship. Sometimes I wonder if Jesus were still on earth as a man, would it be easier to keep God in the forefront because He'd constantly be physically present with us?
ReplyDelete@mdith4him - Thank you for the correction, I will be editing that now. I did mean David, not Daniel, but I suppose that's what happens when you're overtired and not paying attention. And thank you for your thoughts :)
@Amy - No offence taken at all; I actually appreciate the opinions more of people who have rounded their own opinions rather than allowing others to dictate opinions to them. Thanks for commenting; your thoughts are muchly appreciated :)
this isn't a rule. its a command. and as someone who was in a sinful relationship and made the CHOICE to obey god and close that GAP and DISCONNECTION i was feeling everytime i sinned AGAINST him I think it is extremely important that you ask yourself what your salvation means to you. that is what I had to do.
ReplyDeleteWas my salvation worth having sex with a man I had not committed myself to for life??? And if I FELT this guy was going to be the one why couldn't I feel the urge to hold off until we were married.
BEcause WE WEREN'T getting married. that is why. lol I think often times we want to seek what the flesh desires and say "I LOVE GOD" yet god knows the heart and if we seek to sin against him and are not conflicted then we have no love for him in our hearts.
The fact that your struggling with this shows that the spirit is calling you out of sin. Just know that to believe in god is to repent of the OLD WAY OF LIFE and if you haven't left that way of life then you have to ask yourself do you even believe?
PRAY hun and really understand that this is not just about sin its about destroying the relationship between yourself and christ. A PERSONAL DEEP RELATIONSHIP that can become foggy, blurred and ultimately lost if we choose to swim in the sin that forms a barrier between us and him. I LOVE YOU SIS please take heed to his word.
because sin ultimately leads to death. and if you die today will you feel confident knowing where your soul will rest.
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and once you repent fully and ask forgiveness (remember repenting is not asking forgiveness its doing A complete U TURN from sin) he will give you that peace that you don't have right now. I'm sorry if i was a bit stern and harsh but i just got out of relationship in which i was sexually active with my bf and eventually even having sex with him OUTSIDE OF US DATING. haahah yeah so I'm definitely coming from a place of experience.
ReplyDeletemy struggle wasn't so much the sin as it was the obedience to trust god is my everything. and he will fulfill all my desires and give me a strong man I'm attracted to who is willing to wait because he loves me but LOVES GOD even more :)!!! im so excited for that day :)